confessions of an ex-southern belle
grab a glass of whiskey and sit down for a spell.
  • progress on this lil guy today. thanks @tinedefiore for all the dots and laughs. so much love for you ✨💫✨😘😍✨💫✨

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  • Anonymous asked : hi! im a recent college grad and began two weeks ago at my new post grad job as a college advisor. i identify as genderqueer and prefer the pronoun "they", some people know like my close friends, but i haven't really enforced it. however starting this new position i was reluctant to inform my boss and coworkers of my preferred gender pronoun - not bc i felt uncomfortable but i dont really know how to bring it up or even correct people when the mispronoun. do you have any suggestions? thanks!

    hey! double congrats. gender identity in the workplace is a complicated matter. if you work at a rad organization (like sylvia rivera law project in new york or trans life house in chicago) or even in some service industries (retail, etc.), it is likely that the organization would affirm you and your identities if they haven’t asked already. however, if you work at a government organization or a non-profit that doesn’t work on gender/sexuality, it’s a gamble. when i entered the workforce, i used “he,” and luckily, i’ve had very welcoming workplaces, including the non-profits and public sectors. however, i’m also white, well-educated, and gender normative (business professional masculine every day). 

    as for “they”, i use they pronoun with most of my friends, and i totally love all-gender pronouns. but, i’m going to be honest with you: most workplaces will balk at “they.” this is, of course, discriminatory and dismissive, but it’s where the world is at. if you don’t think you’ll lose your job, perhaps discuss the matter with a trusted co-worker during a lunch break away from the office. if you trust your supervisor, maybe talk to them about it. because you’re new, i think addressing your concerns sooner rather than later is beneficial, but i also think knowing the risks and consequences is important. 

    something i always remind myself of is that i should never expect capitalist/exploitative enterprises/wage labor to affirm me or my existence. i go to make a salary and have health insurance and try to minimize the harm that exists in the world. i don’t go to work to have good gender feels or good politic feels.

    i’m sorry this isn’t more helpful, but i’m going to be honest with you. get in, get out, survive, and use everything to help you and your friends live and laugh.

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  • really happy with my progress. what got me here? yoga, running, eating clean, and honoring my truth.

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  • tsamthepoet:

    The world stands with Palestine.

    (via foreverpalestine)

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  • baijara:

    France’s Socialist government provoked outrage today by becoming the first in the world to ban protests against Israeli action in Palestine.

    In what is viewed as an outrageous attack on democracy, Socialist Interior Minister Bernard Cazeneuve said mass demonstrations planned for the weekend should be halted.

    Mr Cazeneuve said there was a ‘threat to public order’, while opponents said he was ‘criminalising’ popular support of the Palestinian people.



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    SPREAD THIS PLEASE!!!!!

    this is so outrageous.

    (via queeringfeministreality)

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  • "Don’t you dare
    Shrink yourself
    For someone else’s comfort -
    Do not become small
    For people who refuse to grow."
    m.v., Advice to my future daughter, #2. (via findingwordsforthoughts)

    (via bookishboi)

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  • thepoetspace:

    aviloud:

    Aunjoli Jean Pierre for Fresh I Am shot in New York City

    Okay but she fine as hell

    praise.

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  • "The problem is that white people see racism as conscious hate, when racism is bigger than that. Racism is a complex system of social and political levers and pulleys set up generations ago to continue working on the behalf of whites at other people’s expense, whether whites know/like it or not. Racism is an insidious cultural disease. It is so insidious that it doesn’t care if you are a white person who likes black people; it’s still going to find a way to infect how you deal with people who don’t look like you. Yes, racism looks like hate, but hate is just one manifestation. Privilege is another. Access is another. Ignorance is another. Apathy is another. And so on. So while I agree with people who say no one is born racist, it remains a powerful system that we’re immediately born into. It’s like being born into air: you take it in as soon as you breathe. It’s not a cold that you can get over. There is no anti-racist certification class. It’s a set of socioeconomic traps and cultural values that are fired up every time we interact with the world. It is a thing you have to keep scooping out of the boat of your life to keep from drowning in it. I know it’s hard work, but it’s the price you pay for owning everything."
    Scott Woods (via andrewgibby)
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  • "And I can’t
    help
    but to run my fingers
    down your spine
    like you are my
    favorite
    book. But I still
    cannot read you,
    you are
    your own language.
    Your pages are
    tired and torn,
    but I want you,
    I want it all."
    Michelle K., “Like a Book” (via oofpoetry)

    (via teresabeans)

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  • highonlifeeveryday:

    oafmeal:

    holy keith 

    Wow wow wow😮

    just found my leg piece.

    (Source: wittewolven, via butchspacecowboy)

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  • gatsbystatus:

    Charlie Poulson street style for Regalia, July 2014.
    3.5 years on Testosterone.

    (via isadorabear)

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  • chicago queers do it right.

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  • which one of you assholes got me so day drunk?

    that shit is not cute. but we allllll good today, son.

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  • fotojournalismus:

    Day 5: Israel strikes Gaza mosque & center for the disabledGaza death toll passes 135 | July 12, 2014

    1. A Palestinian boy inspects the destruction in his neighbourhood following an Israeli military strike in Gaza City. (Mohammed Abed/AFP/Getty Images)

    2. Palestinian men inspect the rubble of a destroyed mosque following an Israeli military strike in the Nusseirat refugee camp in the central Gaza Strip. (Thomas Coex/AFP/Getty Images)

    3. A Palestinian man and his sons stand at their damaged living room as they look outside at a neighbouring building which was targeted in an Israeli military strike in Gaza City. (Mohammed Abed/AFP/Getty Images)

    4. A Palestinian boy carries a damaged wheelchair as he walks amidst the debris of a rehabilitation centre, which police said was struck by an Israeli tank shell, in the northern Gaza Strip. (Mohammed Salem/Reuters)

    5. Palestinians mourn their relative in the morgue of the Shifa hospital in Gaza City. (Khalil Hamra/AP)

    6. A Palestinian boy amid the remains of a rehabilitation center for the handicapped in Beit Lahiya. (Wissam Nassar for The New York Times)

    7. The body of Suha Abu Saada, 28, lies in a mosque after the Palestinian centre for people with special needs housing in Beit Lahia was targeted by an Israeli air strike. (Mohammed Abed/AFP/Getty Images)

    8. A Palestinian boy sits on the rubble of Al-Farouk mosque which was destroyed in an Israeli airstrike in Nuseirat. (Ezz Zanoon/APA)

    9. Smoke rises after a cargo crossing between Israel and Gaza was shelled. (Hatem Moussa/AP)

    10. Palestinian children look at the rubble of a destroyed mosque following an Israeli military strike in the Nusseirat refugee camp. (Thomas Coex/AFP/Getty Images)

    (Sources: 1, 2, 3, 4 | Naming the dead)

    know this.

    (via foreverpalestine)

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