hey! double congrats. gender identity in the workplace is a complicated matter. if you work at a rad organization (like sylvia rivera law project in new york or trans life house in chicago) or even in some service industries (retail, etc.), it is likely that the organization would affirm you and your identities if they haven’t asked already. however, if you work at a government organization or a non-profit that doesn’t work on gender/sexuality, it’s a gamble. when i entered the workforce, i used “he,” and luckily, i’ve had very welcoming workplaces, including the non-profits and public sectors. however, i’m also white, well-educated, and gender normative (business professional masculine every day).
as for “they”, i use they pronoun with most of my friends, and i totally love all-gender pronouns. but, i’m going to be honest with you: most workplaces will balk at “they.” this is, of course, discriminatory and dismissive, but it’s where the world is at. if you don’t think you’ll lose your job, perhaps discuss the matter with a trusted co-worker during a lunch break away from the office. if you trust your supervisor, maybe talk to them about it. because you’re new, i think addressing your concerns sooner rather than later is beneficial, but i also think knowing the risks and consequences is important.
something i always remind myself of is that i should never expect capitalist/exploitative enterprises/wage labor to affirm me or my existence. i go to make a salary and have health insurance and try to minimize the harm that exists in the world. i don’t go to work to have good gender feels or good politic feels.
i’m sorry this isn’t more helpful, but i’m going to be honest with you. get in, get out, survive, and use everything to help you and your friends live and laugh.
that shit is not cute. but we allllll good today, son.